Vibe Coding City

May. 19th, 2026 10:06 pm
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This past weekend I was at PyCon, which this year was in Long Beach. (Plans made in 2024-ish, presumably, so ahead of the recent catchphrase of the city's tourism marketing, and also ahead of any connection between that catchphrase and anything software-related.) A lot of the technical talks focused on big coming-to-fruition performance improvement projects in Python and lots and lots about AI: How that's up-ending security on both the attacker and defender side, how it's ushered in a somewhat nightmarish Eternal September for open-source maintainers, and the use of gen-AI models in software engineering (models which are themselves writing and running a whole bunch of Python code). It was great spending some time with some of my colleagues from other teams, especially Google's core Python Team. It was also nice that I had the full support of my company in attending the conference, actual conference travel budget for the first time in some years.

One sad thing that's been on my mind close to home recently is the death of a Somerville man in a tragic escalator accident in Davis Square station. It's really dismaying that there were so many bystanders who missed possibly life-saving opportunities to help. I really hope people realize that someone incapacitated at the bottom of stairs is much more likely to be an emergency, and at the bottom of an escalator is definitely an immediate emergency. People need to know about the E-stop and know that's a thing they can and should use in that situation. (And also possibly big-red-button awareness is going to be an increasingly important thing in a variety of everyday contexts going forward.)

Today's bonus link is a short story, Isabel Kim's take on Omelas.
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In which Sergeant Fred Colon feels bad for himself and Nobby tries to buck him up )

Afghan Process, in detail.

May. 19th, 2026 07:26 pm
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I've knocked out some mostly-brown marl yarn for the next batch of squares. Go me for progress on the spinning front. On my spreadsheet, I have 6 "mostly brown" squares remaining, 1 "mostly brown" square in progress, 2 "mostly-white" squares remaining, and 5 "brown" squares remaining. I will need more yarn of all flavors to complete, so spinning ain't over yet but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Would you like to hear about the afghan making process in detail? )

Book review: A Drop of Corruption

May. 19th, 2026 05:11 pm
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Title: A Drop of Corruption (In the Shadow of the Leviathan #2)
Author: Robert Jackson Bennett
Genre: Fantasy, murder mystery/crime thriller

Yesterday, with hours to go until my library hold expired, with another hold not on the horizon before 3 weeks, I finished A Drop of Corruption, the second book in the In the Shadow of the Leviathan series by Robert Jackson Bennett.

Ana and Din are back with another grody and baffling murder. I think the consistency between the first book and the second is very good; if you liked one, you’ll like the other. Bennett maintains the same quality mystery narrative here, dropping believable misleads while feeding out enough information that when Ana makes her breakthrough realizations you can look back and see the path she took.

Bennett’s fantasy world is coming into its own as well. We pick up many months after the end of the last book, so Ana and Din have developed a stronger rapport and working relationship. We are fed more information about the world itself—with some outside perspective, as this book takes place entirely in the nation of Yarrow, which is essentially a satellite state of Khanum, pending full annexation once negotiations with Yarrow’s king complete.

I enjoy how the women are written in these books. Ana and our new, local connection, Malo, are wholly unmoored from concerns about what others think of them. Ana is brash, loud, demanding, and arrogant—except that she’s almost always right. She has a masterful understanding of her own capabilities and weaknesses and she’s not afraid to openly discuss either. She’s also crass, gluttonous, and does not have great personal hygiene habits. And yet, everyone simple handles it, because she’s so good at what she does. I feel it’s rare to see a female character like this.

When it comes to the other women in service to the empire, like Thelenai and the female members of Uhad’s crew from the last book, there is little distinction between them and their male colleagues. A number of fantasy stories have posited that their worlds are gender-equal, but many fall utterly short of showing that beyond having women around. In Bennett’s world, in Khanum, I believe it, in part because the women lack the self-consciousness that comes of being raised in a sexist society.

However, this book is politically confused. It is obvious, even before the author’s note, that Bennett thinks very little of monarchy, and its destructive power is hammered over and over throughout the book. In that closing author’s note, Bennett is highly critical both of real-world leaders behaving like kings, and the glorification of monarchy in fantasy literature. However, the glaring hole in this, to me, is that no commentary is made on the empire. Ana and Din hail from what is nothing more than an elevated monarchy—one where their centuries-old emperor has chosen to extend his power well beyond his initial borders. Now, it makes perfect sense that Ana and Din believe in the good of Khanum. They serve it, they are members of its government. However, Khanum’s pending annexation of Yarrow is posited as almost universally a good thing for Yarrow—indeed, the only character we see strongly opposed to it is easily the most loathsome character in the book. There is criticism also of Yarrow’s practice of slavery, but when Din protests that a potential Khanum retreat from the annexation would leave the slaves of Yarrow to their fate, Ana warns him it is not Khanum’s place to legislate the morality of other places. And yet, over and over and over again for all of human history, empires have believed it was their place to do just that—and violently (Hello, White Man’s Burden).

Perhaps these inconsistencies would be less sharp if we understood more about Khanum and its role in the world. In A Drop of Corruption, we are told the empire no longer conquers with strength of arms—ergo the protracted negotiations with Yarrow. However, that means it did, and even in the last book we saw how the empire treats its cantons, with the utter destruction of Oypat accepted as a reasonable price to maintain the wealth of various noble families. Even if the emperor is only a figurehead, we know that Khanum is tightly bound by the whims and desires of its nobility. It was baffling to me why this is never raised in the political discussions of Yarrow and the annexation.

Moving on, we get new backstory on both Ana and Din here, which bulks their characters out (although Din’s apparent lifelong yearning to join the Legion feels a bit out of left field) and leaves us in a very interesting place for the third book. Ana continues to be a vicious delight and without spoilers, we are finally learning what makes her so unique.

I also had to appreciate the importance the narrative places on civil servants. One of Din’s gripes about life in the Iudex is, essentially, that it is unglamorous and frequently bureaucratic. Yet the narrative champions those who do the day-to-day drudgery of running a country, frequently for no thanks. It takes the garbage men and the post office workers and the teachers and the Social Security Administration clerks to run things, and A Drop of Corruption says these people are important, and the work they do is important, even if it is rarely recognized.

Bennett has hit his stride with this series and I’m curious to see where it goes next.


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May. 19th, 2026 07:58 pm
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Oh, hey! I just realized that our office is closed on Friday as well as Monday, so I get a four day weekend!

I'm going to try to do some grocery shopping after work on Thursday and maybe pick up a 12-pack of Corona to see me through the long weekend, and then I'm going to plan on not leaving the house for the entirety of those four days.
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Posted by Matt Kiser

Day 1946

Today in one sentence: Trump’s Justice Department expanded his IRS settlement to include a provision ending all pending tax audits of him, his family, and his businesses; the Senate voted to advance a war powers resolution that would require Trump to end military action against Iran without congressional authorization; Trump endorsed Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton over Sen. John Cornyn in Texas’ Republican Senate runoff; JD Vance defended Trump’s 3,700-plus stock trades in the first three months of 2026; Affordable Care Act enrollment could fall by nearly 5 million people this year after pandemic-era subsidies expired; Trump called the White House ballroom project “a gift” funded by him and private donors; and 55% of Republicans want the party’s next nominee for president to follow Trump’s lead, but 37% want the party to move in a different direction.


1/ Trump’s Justice Department expanded his IRS settlement to include a provision ending all pending tax audits of him, his family, and his businesses. The one-page addendum was signed by Acting Attorney General Todd Blanche one day after the Trump administration agreed to create a $1.776 billion “Anti-Weaponization Fund.” The fund was part of a deal for Trump to drop his $10 billion lawsuit against his own government over leaked tax records. The addendum says the IRS is “FOREVER BARRED and PRECLUDED” from pursuing “examinations” of Trump, “related or affiliated individuals,” and related trusts and businesses. Meanwhile, Blanche and JD Vance separately declined to rule out payments to Jan. 6 defendants, with Vance saying “anybody can apply” and Blanche adding: “My feelings don’t matter.” (Washington Post / Politico / NBC News / New York Times / Bloomberg / Wall Street Journal / Associated Press / CNBC)

2/ The Senate voted to advance a war powers resolution that would require Trump to end military action against Iran without congressional authorization. While the procedural vote didn’t end the war, four Republicans joined Democrats to advance the resolution after seven failed attempts. The measure, however, still needs a final Senate vote, House passage, and an almost certain Trump veto. (New York Times / Washington Post / Wall Street Journal / Politico / CNBC / Bloomberg / ABC News)

3/ Trump endorsed Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton over Sen. John Cornyn in Texas’ Republican Senate runoff. The endorsement came after early voting began and immediately angered Senate Republicans, who warned that Paxton could put a normally safe seat at risk against Democrat James Talarico. Trump, nevertheless, called Paxton a “true MAGA Warrior” and blamed Cornyn for not supporting him “when times were tough.” (Texas Tribune / New York Times / CBS News / Politico / Bloomberg / NPR)

4/ JD Vance defended Trump’s 3,700-plus stock trades in the first three months of 2026, calling it “absurd” to suggest that Trump is sitting in the “Oval Office on his computer on his, like, Robinhood account, buying and selling stocks.” The disclosure showed trades in companies with business before his administration, including firms Trump has “talked up at events” and in social media posts. The White House, however, said “there are no conflicts of interest” because Trump’s assets “are in a trust managed by his children.” (CNBC / Bloomberg)

5/ Affordable Care Act enrollment could fall by nearly 5 million people this year after pandemic-era subsidies expired Jan. 1. Average premium payments rose 58%, while deductibles jumped 37%. Enrollment is expected to drop from 22.3 million in 2025 to about 17.5 million in 2026, a decline of about 22%. The average deductible rose by more than $1,000, to $3,786, as many enrollees shifted into cheaper bronze plans. (Washington Post / CBS News / NPR / Associated Press)

6/ Trump called the White House ballroom project “a gift” funded by him and private donors. The comment follows the Senate parliamentarian blocking a Republican attempt to include taxpayer money for ballroom-related security work in an unrelated immigration enforcement bill. The administration estimates that about $220 million of the $1 billion Secret Service provision would go toward security work tied to the ballroom project. Trump, meanwhile, hasn’t publicly disclosed how much he’s personally contributed, but insisted that “all of this was paid for by myself.” (Politico / ABC News / Washington Post)

poll/ 55% of Republicans want the party’s next nominee for president to follow Trump’s lead, but 37% want the party to move in a different direction. (New York Times)

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Single Player, Tara Tai
Address Unknown, Kathrine Kressman Taylor
Lavender Laughs in the Chalet School, Elinor M Brent-Dyer (re-read)
You Probably Think This Song is About You, Kate Camp
Seven Points, Amy James
Dragonsdawn, Anne McCaffrey (re-read)
A stocking full of spies, Robin Stevens


Single Player, Tara Tai. Cat Li gets her chance in the video gaming industry by being brought on to add romance storylines to an upcoming big budget release; but Andi Zhang, her new non-binary boss, hates romance, is traumatised by a previous doxxing, and is being set up to take the fall for the game failing by evil managers. Obviously they fall in love. I liked bits of this while never being entirely convinced by either the logistics of the game design or the characters.

Address Unknown, Kathrine Kressman Taylor. Short, quietly devastating series of letters between a Jewish art dealer living in San Francisco (who has relatives in Germany) and his former close friend and business partner, who has returned to Germany in the early 1930s. Published in 1938, unfortunately not difficult to read as currently relevant.

Lavender Laughs in the Chalet School, Elinor M Brent-Dyer. Re-read. Lavender is spoilt, highly strung, and the star of her aunt’s series of geographical readers in which they visit various countries; WWII having cramped their style somewhat, she ends up at the Chalet School and after the usual series of mishaps, becomes a much better person. I do think this could have been much more interesting if told from the pov of Lilamani, Lavender’s friend from Kashmir, who shows up here briefly (and only gets two years at the Chalet School) but it’s perfectly adequate and I do like Brent-Dyer’s Peace League and her insistence (via the staff) that the pupils are not sheltered from news of the war.

You Probably Think This Song is About You, Kate Camp. Kate and I are contemporaries (her mother was my English teacher) but although I recognise a lot of her childhood we had wildly different teen experiences (Camp’s involve a lot of alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, and violent unstable boyfriends; mine were more along the lines of some alcohol, complicated friendships, and a ridiculous amount of reading), although we intersect again in adulthood. I am, however, unsure how much of this is accurate and how much fiction; the opening chapter has this bit where the child Kate is obsessed with a few lines from Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Dreamboat, singing them over and over despite her family’s gentle mockery. But the lines Camp quotes (“always hoped that I’d be an apostle...” etc) are clearly from Jesus Christ Superstar, credited as such in the opening front matter, and I can’t quite decide if this is a genuine mistake or a signal that the author is not entirely to be trusted. However the writing is great and I liked the chance to get a different view on the same world and time.

Seven Points, Amy James. Novella sequel to Crash Test in which Jacob gets a chance to fill in as an F1 driver - but will doing this compromise his relationship with Travis? Not particularly tense and comes across as too much wish-fulfilment, plus I don’t like the pairing teased in the closer.

Dragonsdawn, Anne McCaffrey (re-read). I know I have read this before but the only bit that felt familiar was the bit when HNO3 is being described and starts sounding like the agenothree of the future books, because it annoyed me then and it annoys me now :D (not that it happens! But the description feels forced). First settlement of Pern, the discovery of fire lizards, surviving Thread, developing dragons, an impressively nasty female villain and her evil plot; this book has to get through a heck of a lot and sometimes logic and characterisation get jettisoned in the process. I find Sallah intriguing as a flawed (seriously) character, additionally hampered by McCaffrey’s always slightly disturbing takes on gender roles and romance initiation; I suspect last time around I was much more interested in Sorka (first to impress fire lizards, first Weyrwoman etc) but now I find her lacking in comparison to Menolly. I do not think I’ll re-read the other early ones but Dragonflight is still tempting me.

A stocking full of spies, Robin Stevens. Book 3 in the Ministry of Unladylike Activity series, and we’re at Bletchley Park, where Hazel is working and where May, Nuala, and Eric, can be usefully employed as runners and solve a murder while they’re at it, not so incidentally also clearing Daisy’s brother Bertie in the process. I do like the setting in this a lot and there’s a lot of interesting stuff going on, but I will always miss Daisy and Hazel as narrators (not that I don’t like the others - just not as much, and somehow splitting the narrative between three feels much more crowded than having Hazel write it all down).

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May. 19th, 2026 05:48 pm
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Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Not Quite Hopelessly Behind

May. 19th, 2026 06:20 pm
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I have been getting worse and worse at posting and even reading, but the last couple of weeks were so busy that I can no longer skip enough entries to get back to where I missed! So I'm going through my Reading page and clicking names, then working my way through individual friends. So if I seem to be replying in an odd way to your posts, that's why.

I really do want to engage more here. I've been reading faithfully if irregularly. Life has been . . . interesting.

Woodworking, by Emily St. James

May. 19th, 2026 03:15 pm
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Erica Skyberg is a 35-year-old teacher in a small town in South Dakota who’s just realized that she’s a trans woman. Or rather, the knowledge that she’s a trans woman has finally become impossible to suppress. Unfortunately, she’s deep in the closet and the only other trans person she knows is Abigail, who is 17 and the only openly trans student at her high school. Erica is in the stage of identity where she can’t think about anything else; Abigail is fine with carrying the banner of being out but would really like her life to not be just about Being Trans.

Erica comes out to Abigail, who is equal parts annoyed and fascinated by the chance to take on the role of being a mentor to an adult. Their relationship is definitionally inappropriate, but not predatory or harmful. Abigail can be a lot and Erica has enormous issues with self-esteem and boundaries, but they’re both essentially kind and well-meaning people trying to just live their lives in a world that has cast them as Public Enemy # 1.

This novel is also essentially kind. It’s a very warm and often pretty funny look at two people who have one somewhat random thing in common and create a relationship based on that one thing, which becomes a relationship based on more than that, and how the repercussions of that relationship spiral outward and affect others: Erica’s ex-wife, Abigail’s boyfriend, Abigail’s boyfriend’s mother, a lonely student who wants to be friends with Abigail, the woman running against an anti-trans political candidate who is guaranteed to win, and many more.

Content note: Obviously transphobia and internalized self-hatred are central to the overall story, but it’s not the kind of book where people are constantly getting slurs screamed at them.

I will mention, since it’s a mistake that I made, that Emily St. James is not Emily St. John Mandel who wrote Station Eleven.

Recommended by Naomi Kritzer. Thanks!
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Posted by Alicia Gallegos

The Court of Rieti, Italy

A prolonged feud between two physicists in Italy that has played out for years in journal letters and blog posts has resulted in a defamation award for one of the rivals. 

Lorenzo Iorio and Ignazio Ciufolini have sparred for more than 20 years over claims of plagiarism, sock puppetry and defamation. After two criminal lawsuits against Iorio failed, Ciufolini took the spat to civil court where the Court of Rieti on April 15 ordered Iorio to pay Ciufolini €15,000 (roughly US$17,500) for defaming Ciufolini in blogs and online journals. 

In her eight-page decision, Honorary Judge Francesca Tosi said the statements Iorio made about Ciufolini, which date back to 2011, were more than “mere criticism” justifying a difference of opinion. 

“It is observed that the defendant, in all his writings, deliberately sought to cast the plaintiff in a negative light, undermining his honor and reputation with offensive statements,” according to a machine translation of Tosi’s decision. “Case law has long held that, ‘honor and reputation constitute inviolable personal rights, guaranteed by the Constitution, the infringement of which gives rise to the injured party’s right to compensation for non-pecuniary damage, regardless of whether the harmful act constitutes a criminal offense.”

Ciufolini did not return messages seeking comment. 

Iorio said he disagreed with the decision, but told Retraction Watch he had no intention of appealing and “wasting time on these matters.”  

“Naturally, I consider the outcome of this civil case to be erroneous and the compensation awarded to the opposing party excessive, both in absolute terms and relative to the specific case,” he said. “The bitterness remains because in a civil proceeding, the damage suffered by the injured party must be objectively quantified based on specific analytical criteria, and it doesn’t appear to me that this was done by the judge in the civil case.”

Ciufolini and Iorio are both active in the field of gravitational physics and general relativity. Iorio is the current editor-in-chief of the journal Universe, an MDPI title. Ciufolini was principal investigator for the Laser Relativity Satellite (LARES) and LARES II, a pair of satellites launched by the Italian Space Agency to test Einstein’s theory of general relativity. 

The beef between the two goes back to at least 2004 when Iorio accused Ciufolini of plagiarizing him in a Nature letter that addressed Einstein’s theory of general relativity as it relates to Earth-orbiting satellites. 

We first learned about the feud in 2014 when The Journal of the Association for Information Science and Technology removed a letter by Iorio accusing Ciufolini of using pseudonyms to criticize other physicists on arXiv.org. ArXiv moderators later outed Ciufolini as the true author of the criticisms, but then changed course and removed the accusation, as we previously reported. The moderators ultimately removed the critical submission altogether, noting it was posted by an apparent pseudonym in violation of arXiv policies.    

Iorio later levied critical comments on articles about Ciufolini on the Science website, on Neuroskeptic and on the website of the Italian newspaper La Repubblica. Ciufolini sued Iorio twice in criminal court for defamation in 2011 and again in 2014. Iorio was acquitted in both suits. 

In the latest defamation case, the parties participated in an oral hearing that Tosi wrote “partially” confirmed the plaintiff’s claim. Witnesses testified Ciufolini was “embittered” and “embarrassed” by Iorio’s comments, and that he checked the internet daily to see if Iorio had posted anything about him.  

“The documents filed and the oral proceedings revealed the facts that caused the plaintiff harm to his dignity, honor, and reputation in the workplace,” Tosi wrote in her decision. “With regard to the latter aspect, defamation can have a devastating impact on the victim, generating a sense of inadequacy, a crisis of self-esteem, and the possibility of losing job opportunities and collaboration proposals, especially when, as in the present case, the defamation occurred in the digital environment.”

In addition to the €15,000.00 in civil damages, Tosi ordered Iorio to reimburse Ciufolini for litigation costs totaling €545.00 (about $633) and €5,077.00 (about $5,900) for professional fees. 


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The Big Idea: Mary Berman

May. 19th, 2026 09:04 pm
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Posted by Athena Scalzi

Ring the wedding bells and toast your champagne glass, author Mary Berman has brought us a tale of love. Or, more accurately, a tale of being afraid of ending up alone, in the Big Idea for her newest novel, Until Death.

MARY BERMAN:

In 2021, I met my now-husband on Hinge. (This was before the death of the algorithm, RIP.)

On our first date, he asked, “So, are you looking for a relationship?” and I said, “No.” And he said, “Oh… so you’re just looking for someone to hook up with? I’m not really —” And I replied with something like, “God, no. I’m just afraid that if I don’t find a partner now, I’ll be alone in thirty years when my parents die.”

#

Two years later, in 2023, I found myself surrounded by weddings. My cousin got married, my other cousin got engaged, my best friend’s other friend got engaged, someone else kept texting me about her coworker’s crazy wedding in Italy, etc. I truly had no desire to be engaged yet — although my partner had, after that first conversation, mercifully decided to hang around, and we were still together — but I was still out here making wedding spreadsheets for fun. I couldn’t help it. Weddings were everywhere. We were all losing our damn minds. It was as Jia Tolentino had written in her very excellent essay “I Thee Dread”: “I, on the topic of weddings, like so many women before me, had gone a little bit insane.”

And at some point I thought: Oh, there’s a thing that makes everybody insane? I could write a horror novel about that.

#

That was my moment of inspiration: Ooh, a horror novel about wedding planning! I also had my protagonist, Ophelia, right away. She, like me, would start out thinking, Mmm, I’m not sure this whole relationship business is for me. But over the course of the novel, she’d get dragged into a marriage. Unlike me, though, she would not be dragged into it by Love. No, she would be ensnared by Something Bad. But what Bad Thing could get someone to make a huge decision like that?

And then I thought: Maybe, like me, she’s also terrified to end up alone.

And — because I love to turn shit up to eleven — I thought, Maybe she’s a lot closer to that point than I was when I met my partner. Maybe her dad is gone already, maybe her mom is sick. But sick is too easy, it’s too black-and-white. What’s worse than sick? What’s worse than dying?

#

I have two family members who died of dementia. The first of these slow declines, I witnessed as a young teenager. Because of this, I spent a surprisingly long time thinking dementia and aging were the same thing — which is to say, I didn’t think there was a way to do the latter without the former.

Here is what I thought would happen to me, and to everyone else as we aged:

We would grow old. And as we grew old, we would lose bits and pieces of our memory, like an old coat losing shreds of itself to moths’ teeth in the dark.

Eventually, we would lose so much memory that would no longer remember our own histories. We would have no lingering understanding of our selves. We wouldn’t remember our spouses, or our children. We would catch sight of our own hands and panic because they were the gnarled hands of an old woman and we believed ourselves to be twenty-two. We would call our daughter and our granddaughter by the same name, because we would think they were two versions of the same person and our grasp of time would have grown so tenuous that this would not alarm us. Eventually we would also lose our mobility, and our speech.

We wouldn’t lose our lives, though. Those, for some strange reason, we would keep. Some tiny, unquenchable fire would burn inside us still. It would always leave just enough of us to give our loved ones hell.

#

That was it, then. Ophelia’s mother would be diagnosed with early dementia. And Ophelia, who up until this point would have felt, for reasons I shall not spoiler here, that marriage was a bad idea, would suddenly be staring down the barrel of a life without any family in it.

This, to me, is really what makes Until Death a horror novel. Not the wedding planning (well, that too), and not the supernatural element (well, that too). But those things come later. The horror, though, is always in the novel, even before Ophelia makes the decision to get married. That’s because the horror comes from Ophelia’s mother’s illness, Ophelia’s own sense of obligation, and her terror of being alone.

—-

Until Death: Amazon|Barnes and Noble|Bookshop

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Memorial solar panels

May. 18th, 2026 05:54 pm
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D has been doing sterling work with getting our household on solar energy: not just getting four or five quotes and comparing them carefully (of course they're all slightly different), but researching the minutiae and also explaining things in a very accessible way to me, who it turns out doesn't know much about how electricity works.

This afternoon we had a final video call with the guy from our chosen provider, which was very pleasant -- the guy was friendly, it's always fun to see D as happy as the prospect of getting most of our energy from the sun makes him -- and after that we officially went forward with that proposal.

I thought I'd written about six months ago -- though actually I'm not surprised that I didn't -- that after my grandma died and my grandparents' house had been sold, my parents got a third of that money and they put a chunk of it in my bank account (despite my protestations that they keep it all; Mom said she knew I'd say that and it was no use arguing, so I didn't argue). Mom wanted me to put it toward something for the house, something big and good, rather than have it just trickle away on bills and stuff.

I was at a loss what to do about it at the time, but of course here's something wonderful. The cost of our solar energy installation is about half on the battery and half on the solar panels, and the money I think of as my grandma's will cover one of those halves.

Mom happened to ask a couple weeks ago if I'd thought of anything to do with it, so I told her about the solar panels, and she seemed pretty happy with that. (My dad was if anything a little jealous; of course the funding for such things has been stripped away from the U.S. (though Minnesota seems to be trying to do what it can so hopefully that'll change soon.)

(Of course, being my mom, she asked exactly the same question again yesterday, because she does not actually take in the information I tell her or that she has specifically requested, and when I answered it again, this time she was like "oh, yeah, whatever, it doesn't matter what it is, as long as you've spent it on something..." The first time was much more fun!)

Three Flowers For You

May. 19th, 2026 06:53 pm
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Posted by John Scalzi

We visited a botanical garden today. Please enjoy these botanicals. You can click on the images to expand them.

In order: Foxglove, Lotus, Coconut Orchid.

T’was a lovely day.

— JS

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I have been sober for one year after many decades of heavy drinking. By now, I am somewhat comfortable being around others when they drink. I also enjoy entertaining friends in my apartment, but I no longer maintain a well-stocked bar, nor do I wish to. So, what should I do about dinner parties? I want to be a gracious host, but I don’t want to offer a full range of alcoholic beverages to my guests. Should I ask them in advance what they want to drink and stock it? (That seems a bit intense.) Should I buy a bottle each of red and white wine and hope that suffices? (That seems stingy.) Or should I tell my guests that dinner is a “bring your own bottle” occasion? (That seems ungenerous.) Help!

SOBER


First, let me commend you on your sobriety. Making meaningful and positive change after decades of habitual behavior is a big achievement. Well done! So, making note of your phrase (you write that you are “somewhat comfortable” being around drinking), and keeping the relative stakes in mind — protecting your sobriety versus giving a dinner party — I suggest that you hold off serving booze for now. Your sobriety is still relatively new, and it is more important to safeguard it than it is to serve alcohol to friends.

You don’t mention whether you attend a support group for people in recovery. But dropping into a meeting to speak with others who have lived through experiences similar to yours would probably be helpful. They can’t make this decision for you, but hearing their suggestions may help you make a better decision for yourself. I have watched friends in recovery struggle with alcohol that is left over at the end of the evening — as well as with the temptation to join guests in drinking during dinner.

I also suggest that you rethink what makes a good host. For many decades, that probably entailed serving alcohol to your guests. But really, the act of welcoming friends into your home for a meal — and perhaps a nonalcoholic beer or cocktail — is more than enough. No one needs to drink at every meal, and your friends don’t need you to serve them alcohol to feel valued by you.

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May. 19th, 2026 02:51 pm
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*After a mild spring, it suddenly got hot today. Fortunately, we had enough warning that [personal profile] adrian_turtle was able to contact our usual handyman and have him put the air conditioners back in the window, which he did a couple of hours ago. I am staying inside today, because 97F/36C ("feels like" 39/102) is too damned hot for me; I'm glad the handyman was willing to come when he did, rather than early in the day.

*I have been going back and forth with my health insurance company and various people at my psychiatrist's office and the Beth Israel Lahey billing department over a claim that the insurance told me they were denying. The denial letter, with instructions about how to appeal, was dated April 26 and arrived on the 28th, but they haven't sent that to my doctor's office/billing. Meanwhile, billing first told me I don't have an outstanding bill, and then today could find it but said they couldn't do anything as long as it's "pending insurance." Someone at the insurance company suggested I ask the doctor to resubmit with a different code, which seems to have them puzzled. (It was sent in as "doctor's visit, long.") Someone at the insurance company advised me to have the doctor resubmit this with a different code, but when I gave up on billing and sent my doctor a message, she said she didn't know what I want her to do and was forwarding the message to the admin people.

Trying to figure out this insurance mess is why I was on the MyChart website Sunday, and thus led to me getting an overdue mammogram yesterday.

*I mail-ordered a bunch of spices from Penzey's. I'd wanted to get this done sooner so we could take advantage of last weekend's sale, but [personal profile] cattitude reasonably wanted time to look through the spice cabinet. So I assembled an order yesterday, and saw that the most recent politically-themed sale would get me discounts on more things I actually wanted: peppercorns and mustard, rather than their "lemon pepper" seasoning.

Last weekend's sale was loosely immigration themed. The current one is anything starting with I, M, or P, with a promise of a discount on E, A, C, and H in a couple of days to spell out IMPEACH (which is also the current discount code). In any case, we need the pepper and mustard, as well as a variety of things that don't start with those letters, like roast garlic powder and cracked rosemary, which added up to enough for free shipping.

In which I put it on

May. 19th, 2026 07:37 pm
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I made a much better attempt at putting the blue outfit on. There were some alarming stitch-popping noises as I pulled the pre-fastened bra over my hips, but it fits, the sleeves do not impede my movement and it looks pretty good. The white mesh over the stomach really makes me feel better about the whole thing.

I think there need to be more hooks and eyes. But it works, and by the end of June it should be a bit more comfortable, and I think I will be happy to stand up in front of an audience in it:

Me in blue bedlah

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May. 19th, 2026 07:40 pm
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Miss H was on annual leave last week, and while expressing my jealousy about this fact, I suddenly realised that the end of my leave year was actually not very far away and I had quite a lot left to book. Which, when I checked, turned out to be 18 days(!) despite all the frivolous days I've already taken off after concerts etc. And once I allowed for no leave during Welcome, no leave during graduations, and realistically no leave during the testing for the big system changeover this summer, my calendar did not actually have all that many spaces in it!

So I booked off a week in August (coordinating with Miss H, so hopefully we can manage a small adventure or two), most of a week right before Welcome, and the week after graduations. Except then my boss came and apologetically asked if I wouldn't mind moving that one if I didn't have any specific plans, because that's when the big system changeover is due to happen and she's concerned enough about everything falling over as a result (sadly only too plausible an outcome) that she's given me the second week of graduations off instead! Since I was basically just picking random weeks, I said yes of course. And I still have three days left, which I can carry over if I don't use them in time. Annual leave! I'm so excited! Except for the point yesterday when I realised that having booked time off doesn't mean that I don't have to go to work all the rest of this week, and the whole of June, before I get any of it...
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